If there’s one thing that I wish I was warned about before I became a mom, it’s the feeling that I’m failing. It’s feeling like regardless of how much I try to do, I could be doing more. It’s the feeling that I’m not enough. It’s the false thought that creeps in the moment we become mothers. You feel like you’re not spending enough time with your kids or you feel like you might be smothering them. You feel like you have lost control of the house and the chores or you feel like the house is taking control of you. You feel like you’re not excelling at work or you feel like you’re working too much. You wish you were doing better, more, faster, stronger, more organized, more in control.
First of all, rest assured, we all do it. It’s an epidemic actually. But mamas, it isn’t right. The thought that you are not enough is not beneficial in any way. It’s not one of those things that can be useful in small doses – it’s completely useless. Harmful actually. As a matter of fact, a wonderful author, speaker and researcher named Brene Brown says that this feeling of not being enough is the very thing holding us back from realizing that we are. It’s just a feeling. It isn’t reality. And it isn’t true.