What you’ve seen of me is nothing, NOTHING, like my actual daily life. It might sound crazy, but my actual life looks a lot like yours. The differences in my life – whether I work or stay at home or homeschool or serve or have more kids or have more stresses – does not necessarily mean that my life is harder or tougher to manage. And don’t ever fall for the myth that I have it all under control all the time. I’m going just as crazy as you. I struggle with mealtimes and bedtimes and naptimes, just like you. I lose my cool over discipline and sibling rivalry and manners, just like you. I work and fight to be a better mom everyday. Just. Like. You.
As a matter of fact, there’s really nothing super about me. That’s an illusion. What you saw of my life back there when I seemed to have it all together was one of two things. Most probably, it was a complete fluke that surprised me as much as it surprised you. I didn’t really dwell on it cuz I knew that it was fleeting. I just kept my head down and plowed on waiting for the ball to drop.
Or on the other hand, it could have been that I was working really hard on a particular behavior. Maybe I had bribed my kids with just one peaceful trip to the grocery store in exchange for two episodes of Paw Patrol when we get home. Maybe I had threatened my kids with no playdates for two weeks if we can’t eat in peace at the restaurant just this once. Maybe a million things. But what I know for sure is that this is not our norm at baseline. And what you see of me is just a small instant in time, not a sampling of an average day.