Your first response might be that you can’t find any moms who fit that description. But, mama, try. Search for them. Find a Facebook group of mommies in your area and make some connections. It might be awkward and scary to meet new people and make friends but it’s so necessary to have this lifeline. There are certain things that our husbands, partners, and non-mommy friends will just never be able to understand or validate. Sometimes we just need to say it isn’t fair and not feel like we’re offending anyone. Sometimes, all we want to hear is that what we’re doing is really hard but that we’re rocking it. Sometimes we need to see that we are not alone in our struggles as a mom. It is essential.
Now, assuming that you’ve located some mommies that you can hang out with, the hardest step is to actually meet up on a regular basis. It might feel selfish but I assure you, it is not. I am bold enough to say that in not doing this, you’re being selfish. Because in not doing this, you are offering your family a version of you that could be more relaxed and validated and driven. It’s seriously worth it mamas. We all have each other’s back. All you have to do is reach out and identify who it is that has yours.